validation

VALIDATION

Validation is at the root core of ourselves and starts from the time we are born and is with us throughout our life here. Without it, we would have no real life. We would be like a piece of paper on a windy day, just going where the wind takes us and having no direction as we would not have any method of checks and balances. No validation to build our character and give us the sense of right and wrong.

When our parents tell us we are very nice they are validating us and when they tell us we are stupid, they are also validating us and molding us into the way we have been validated. By the means of this validation, is the way in which we live and show the world our character as our correspondences have been setup to give us validation. This is the way we come to realize who we are and where we belong. If we are validated by our family name but, told we are stupid or why did we do such a dumb thing as that, then when we introduce ourselves to the world or company that comes to visit the family, when we answer the door, we might say hello to the guests that come to visit. Then when the guests would ask us (while we are waiting for our parents to come and greet the guests) and "what is your name"- the answer we give may be, I am Johnny and I have a brother, and sister also, but, I am the dumb and stupid one of the family.

Checks and balances are now seen to come into play. We have been checked (in our upbringing and not hearing what we needed to hear, validating our useful existence) by our parents and the guests realize we may be outta balance. Of course the guests may not realize what has happened but, the wise would know that we had not received positive confirmation, and validation to ourselves. Later as we grow older and eventually go on our own, out into the world, we proceed to show the world (just how we have been trained ), what a stupid person we are and then asked by your friends when we do something wrong, why did you do that? Most likely we would reply, because I am stupid and was the dumb one of the family.

On the other side now lets take a look. Growing up with positive validation and strong family love, we become a good achiever and outstanding character (unless our parents were emotionally weak in character, in which case we would probably lean to the greed or bully side). Everything we want to do, we have the capability to do. We have a strong family name and good positive validation of how smart and intelligent we are, validated by our parents as we were growing up. Now on our own, we meet the world, showing the results of positive validation and our capability to tackle anything thrown at us.

As we grow older, we continue our system of correspondence and validation Without this system along with a way to keep the check and balance of ourselves, we would have no way to determine who or what we are and might drift along in a wasted life, without ever realizing our potential that we were born with due to the poor validation system as we were growing up.

It is not the intention here to show if we were raised correctly or not but, to give example of some truths and to validate that everything changes and so do we. Nothing in the world ever stays the same. Time moves on, food rots, the body fails, everything changes - so do we, when we want to improve ourselves also change our validation correspondence and the way we think. No matter where we find ourselves, we can always improve something, change again comes into play.

While some may validate their existence by living a life in sorrow, others may validate themselves by accepting some challenge in sports, hobbies, or academic studies and just plain" enjoying life."

What counts is that we know we can change and a good way to speed up the process is through self reflection and breaking the bad links and forging new links, otherwise these bad links will be passed on to our children as part of the family chain.

By forging new and strong links we begin to validate ourselves in other ways to improve our life and the way we accept things and can validate ourselves and our life.

Meditation is an excellent tool and way of life to inspect yourself and also to validate anything we would like, once our meditation becomes strong, there is not one thing we can not know and do and understand. Through the practice of daily meditation and kindness to all and especially the animals, our light burns bright, guiding us no matter how rough the waters we might find ourselves in, or how dark the night might be, the system of validation we have built within ourselves and our own light guides us to safety. We can never be in unfamiliar waters as we are comfortable, regardless of where we may find ourselves.

Jea

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